Questions, Answers, and Comments

It is definite and clear in these passages, that marriage is a one man, one woman relationship of leaving, cleaving and
becoming one flesh, whereby one man and one woman share before God a union that no man can put asunder. This
denotes that the honorable institution of marriage is fulfilled between one man and one woman who are bound
together by the law of marriage as long as they live (Rom 7: 1-3). The only exception to this rule of marriage, is when
sexual immorality has been committed by one in the marriage bond, as it in turn leaves the other in the relationship as
an innocent party to the sin committed. When the innocent party, thus puts away the guilty subject for the cause of
fornication, Jesus directly implies that the innocent in the relationship can thus remarry another and not be guilty of
committing adultery…..On the other hand, the guilty subject who is put away,  is not free to remarry. If they do
remarry, Jesus plainly says that they commit adultery, and the one who marries them as a guilty subject, also commits
adultery as well.Stephanie, I’m not exactly sure as to what circumstances may surround your situation, by the information that you
provided. If you were the innocent party as is revealed in the above information and your personal situation is parallel
to being the innocent party of Matt 19: 9, the Bible plainly teaches that you can remarry. If your situation is such that
you and your previous spouse both were guilty of sexual immorality or that perhaps you divorced for irreconcilable
differences or you divorced due to a number of different intangible personal reasons, the teaching is still plain and
simple and that is you cannot remarry without committing adultery and also the one you marry will be committing
adultery as well.A clear cut answer to this issue is not always possible. Divorce is always such a terrible experience, that sometimes it
can leave a consequence that simply can not be undone nor can be put back together the way it was before the
divorce. There are folks today, who do their best to twist these words of Jesus to fit their circumstance, when in reality
these words truthfully cannot be twisted if they are applied openly and honestly in their simple immediate context.

My advice to you, is to be as honest and open as you can possibly be about your situation and then apply your
situation directly to what Jesus said in those verses of Matt 19: 4-9. One thing that must be at the fore front of this
application, is to consider, that while we can be forgiven for past sins, and be restored for making bad mistakes in our
life, such restoration does not mend the consequence of being a guilty party in a previous marriage, nor does it mend
a marriage broken for reasons other than sexual immorality. If your previous marriage was broken for any other
reason other than the stated exception, you are not free to remarry, without committing adultery in the sight of God. If
such a consequence is founded or does exist in your situation, as one restored may I advise you NOT to bring into
question your faith by remarrying another, because if you do remarry with such a consequence existing in your
situation, the words of Jesus are clear, you will be guilty of committing adultery and bringing another person into an
adulterous relationship.

Notice the words of Jesus and Paul as to a choice that can be made when such a situation does exist.  This is a
decision that will follow after righteousness and not after the carnal wants of the flesh.

Mat 19:10-12 — His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to
marry. 11. But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For
there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs,
which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the
kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.1Co 7:7-8 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one
after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for
them if they abide even as I.Stephanie, I’m not sure if all this answers your inquiry, or brings any resolve to your mind about your personal
situation regarding divorce and remarriage. Certainly this issue is difficult, and perhaps thats the reason why the Bible
doesn’t go into great detail addressing all the circumstances surrounding it. My prayer for you, is that you not be
hasty in making any life changing decisions, but rather be godly, circumspect, cautious and very careful about what
you decide for your spiritual well being.And always ….please always do what Gods Word is directing you to do …..first and foremost!  Don’t listen to your
friends, family or whomever,  but rather all of our life’s decisions must be made,  by being lead solely by the Word of
God, nothing less will do, in view of securing our eternal destiny!Remember this….that our life here on earth is like a vapor, James says…..Which means that eternity is longer than a
long time! Because our life is so short, we must redeem the time we have now, because what we do here in this short
time span for the sake of righteousness, will surely determine through Jesus,  where we will spend eternity in the world
to come.  

Let us always be people that choose the way of eternal life and NOT death!  For in that latter choice there is no hope,
there is only eternal destruction that is surely to come!

1Jo 5:11-13 — And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. 12 He
that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life. 13 These things have I
written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life,
and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.Again, thank you for your inquiry!!If we can be of more assistance just let us know, and certainly we would love to hear from you again as to how things
are going in your spiritual life!Keep in touch,

With Best Regards,

Wyn Baker Preacher of the Gospel….www.thegospelfortoday.com

UPDATE:Stephanie replied back to Wyn thanking him for his honest and scriptural answer and stated that it would help her to
be able to stand up to those influences in her life that were trying to give her advice contrary to God’s Word.  May
God bless her for her willingness to follow God’s will above all others!